“The All Powerful King Inside of You”

Inside of you is an “All Powerful King” who is capable of making all of your dreams come true. Whatever you tell him you want with purpose and conviction he will make happen in your life. He has that much power and he resides inside of you right now even as you are reading this article however you must be very careful because he takes whatever you tell him literally, good or bad. So be careful of what you tell him want. He believes what you tell him to be true, even when it isn’t and he can make bad things happen just as well as good things. Good or bad whatever he produces for you he believes it is the right thing for you. He takes everything you say literally.

Does that sound like a fantasy or a crazy story? It isn’t. I am talking about your subconscious mind and what I have described to you is exactly how it works, whether you believe it or not. Very little of what we do we do is at a conscious level. Neuroscientist now know that only about 10% of what we do is at a conscious level and 90% is subconscious. Your subconscious mind controls every aspect and function of your body and mind. Your heart beating right now, the breath you just took, every chemical and hormone being released and used in your body right now is being controlled by your subconscious mind. If you think about it, you will realize how amazing that really is.

Many times the reason you seem to have such a hard time letting go of bad habits is you try to change them at a conscious level and that doesn’t work. Your subconscious mind believes the bad habit is actually good for you and will at some point override your conscious mind. It is how you can rationalize or make excuses for your bad habit. It is the reason for so many years I would lose 50 or 100+ pounds and then I would put the weight back on, even though I didn’t want to. My subconscious mind perceived me as being fat and that being fat was a good thing, even though that sound crazy. That is how you get stuck in such negative patterns in your life and can’t seem to change them.

So, how do you change these negative images and beliefs you have about yourself? Long term change almost never happens at a conscious level. It has to happen at a subconscious level first and then it becomes part of our conscious reality. When I changed the perception of myself from being fat to being thin, then I was able to change myself physically. Change happens from the inside out not the outside in. You have to change the movie that is running all day long inside your head. Your homework today will help you do that and it is simple, easy and fun to do.

Your Daily Homework

Do this exercise every night as you go to sleep.

As you are laying in bed ready to fall asleep close your eyes and visualize exactly how you want your life to be. See it in great detail. Hear the sounds you would hear if it were real and feel all the emotions you would feel. Then fall asleep on that visualization. All night long your subconscious mind will be working on that image you created and as you do it more and more you will begin to make adjustments in your habits , values and beliefs. It is simple and it is very powerful and overtime it can change your life! In Napoleon Hill’s classic book on success, “Think and Grow Rich” he discovered that the most successful people in the world did this every night as they were going to sleep. People like Thomas Edison, Henry Ford, Alexander Graham Bell, The Wright Brothers and many more did this powerful exercise

So do the exercise every night. You area going to go to sleep anyway and the exercise requires no additional time from your day. How great is that? You are amazing, so do things that help you discover how amazing you are.

Scott Schmaren’s Bio

Scott Schmaren is a nationally known speaker, coach and author. He has spent over 20 years learning powerful success technologies. He has used what he has learned and created to transform his life, losing 180 pounds and maintaining it while rediscovering his vitality. He has appeared on the Oprah Winfrey Show.  Oprah said, “If Scott can do it, I can do it and so can you!. Scott’s techniques are being used to increase sales and business, weight management, overcoming obstacles, achieving goals and many other great things. Athletes and sales professionals are using his systems to achieve, consistent, peak athletic and sales performance. Scott is co-author of the book, Stepping Stones to Success, along with Jack Canfield , Deepak Chopra and Dr. Denis Waitley. Scott’s forthcoming book is entitled, “Your Ultimate Visionary Mind: Transforming Your Life in 30 Minutes a Day.”

 Scott Schmaren, 847-331-5848

scott@ultimatevisionarymind.com

www.UltimateVisionaryMind.com

Are you experiencing confusion, uncertainty, and stress as you seek new clarity of purpose?  Looking for a way to get a new perspective, lift your spirits and enjoy the journey more? 

Consider an unexpected source of enlightenment:  HUMOR.

Listen to our conversation with Jollytologist, Allen Klein – author of Mom’s the Word and The Art of Living Joyfully at The On Purpose Show

Through his books and his presentations, Klein shows people worldwide how to deal with everything from traffic jams to tragedies.

Allen got into this unique line of work after his wife died of a rare liver disease at the age of 34. He saw how humor helped her, and those around her, cope. He also saw how humor helped him get through that loss. After her death, left his business, went back to school and got a Master’s Degree in Human Development, after writing a thesis on the therapeutic value of humor.  He now teaches others, around the world, how to access humor in trying times, and get a new perspective on their situation to deal with everything from traffic jams to tragedies.

Gem of Wisdom:

“Lighten up and let go. ”

One Small Step:

Surrounding yourself with personal things that remind you to lighten up.  Photos of family and friends that make you smile, a feather that reminding you to take things lightly and toys that connect you to the child in you.

Favorite Quotes:

“When my wife was in the hospital, I realized that there wasn’t a lot of laughter, maybe five or ten seconds, but it helped us rise above the situation, gave us a new perspective and helped us get through what we were going through.

“What’s the positive in the negative situation you’re facing.  I bet you can come up with 10 things.”

“When we listen to our gut it will tell us our purpose and what we’re supposed to do in life.”

“What is your intention?  How do you wake up in the morning?  If you have no intention for your day or your life you flounder.”

“I totally believe the world is perfect.  Sometimes it doesn’t seem that way.  Time and again I see it is.  I didn’t want my wife to die, but if she didn’t I wouldn’t be doing this work.”

“I believe in the power of words.  The words we feed ourselves and the words we surround ourselves with are so powerful.”  

Tell Me More… Resources:

To learn more about Allen’s work  on his website:  http://www.AllenKlein.com

Allen Klein’s Books:

• The Art of Living Joyfully
• Mom’s the Word
• Click Here to see all his books

Listen to our conversation with Allen at http://bit.ly/0516Klein

Is purpose a burning question for you currently? Are you seeking to go beyond the surface and live from the depth of your Soul?

“You were born with everything you need to create the life of your dreams and live your soul’s purpose.” Says Shellie Nelson, our guest on this week’s episode of the On Purpose show. “Unfortunately, far too many of us have accepted programming, adopted beliefs, and embraced limitations that undermine what we’re really here for. This makes your life a struggle and sucks the joy out of your days.”

Shellie Nelson is highly intuitive and has been seeing energy and ghosts her whole life.  She has the ability to see the soul of a person. It is her desire to help people bring the greatness of their soul into their human awareness and physical life.

Listen in to hear Shellie share her own story, and learn about how she uses her unique intuitive abilities to assist others give to their life a spiritual make-over and really show up in life as the Soul they truly are –  living their soul’s purpose.

Join us on Thursday May 23rd at 10:00am pacific time on the Linked Local Network at:  http://bit.ly/0523Nelson

Every Thursday at Noon Central

Join the On-Purpose radio show on the Linked Local Network with Susyn Reeve and Rikk Hansen as they open doors to discover & live a lifework that’s alive with purpose.

Susyn and Rikk share compelling conversations with midlife professionals, entrepreneurs, experts, and authors successfully doing work that expresses their purpose & passion. Learn the secrets and resources from their stories and experience to inspire your on-purpose success. 

Join the conversation on the show’s Facebook page: On Purpose Show

And to listen anytime via iTunes or subscribe to the weekly podcast click => http://bit.ly/PurposePodcast

 

 

It’s been said that learning new things keeps the brain young and helps keep life interesting. Well one day last week I mentioned having a taste for German chocolate cake (my favorite), what’s yours?

To which Cathy replied, “The box is in the cabinet.” I didn’t realize we already had the ingredients needed to give me exactly what I wanted. So what did I do? Nothing.

I hadn’t made a cake before, Cathy always makes the cakes. But it should be no big deal right? Just follow the direction right? But I still didn’t do it.

So I came up with a brilliant plan that I thought would also be romantic. We’ll do it together!

The weekend came, we ran errands and enjoyed a spontaneously planned cookout at my sister in laws, therefore, no time to bake our cake.

The next day came and still we did everything else except bake our cake.

Then, as I watched Cathy resting on the sofa I announced, “I’m going to go bake you a cake now.”

“Oh really?” She replied. To which I asked, “Can I ask you questions as I go to make sure I don’t miss anything?”

“Sure.”

As I carefully read the instructions over and over again and assembled the ingredients I was increasingly reassured by two simple facts. That I’d given myself permission to be helped in this process, and that I would be receiving it from someone who would offer it patiently. How many of us have this opportunity?

I remember being instructed by impatient teachers who had to move things along because there was always so much to do and my fastest was never fast enough.

I remember my mother repeatedly stepping in with an “Oh just let me do it” scolding which as I realize now had more to do with her impatience than anything.

Can you relate to this?

I wonder how many of us even as adults walk around with pockets full of little insecurities that when combined weigh heavily on our confidence. Simply because our lives, though filled with numerous opportunities to learn, were sorely lacking in the patient mentors we needed to help us through our teachable moments.

So when I finally decided it was time for me to learn how to bake a cake I knew I had the mentor I needed. I could take my time and ask the same question twice if I needed to. Which I did repeatedly.

With my Dyslexia I checked in with Cathy to make sure I was reading the instructions correctly. With my organizational challenges I made sure I was remembering the sequence correctly.

Her support was encouraging and patient. Just one more reminder of how much can be accomplished when you have the right partner.

This of course applies to more than a marriage. Employees need this of their coworkers and supervisors. Students need this of their teachers, and children need this from their parents and siblings.

In society today I see inspiring examples of partnership on a large scale, but they primarily happen in crisis situations such as natural disasters or terrorist acts.

But in every day life I see individuals enduring difficult times while others stand by saying, “Better him than me.”

Where did we learn this, why do we do this to one another?

There is one thing I am certain of, none of us makes it through this life alone and shame on anyone who allows another human being to be alone when they could reach out. Even if the only thing they can offer is their presence.

There’s a saying that, “life isn’t a piece of cake.” Well I believe it can come pretty close, when you’re baking it together.

Thanks for being you.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Brian R. King LCSW is a Relationship Breakthrough Specialist. His breakthrough strategies draw on his experience as a 24 year cancer survivor, adult with Dyslexia, Dysgraphia, A.D.D., the father of three sons on the autism spectrum as well as someone who lives on the autism spectrum himself. His books and seminars have garnered him worldwide attention for his innovative communication and relationship strategies.

Are you experiencing confusion, uncertainty, and stress as you seek new clarity of purpose?  Looking for a way to get a new perspective, lift your spirits and enjoy the journey more? 

Consider an unexpected source of enlightenment:  HUMOR.

This weeks guest with Susyn Reeve and Rikk Hansen on the On Purpose radio show is jollytologist, Allen Klein – author of Mom’s the Word and The Art of Living Joyfully.

Through his books and his presentations, Klein shows people worldwide how to deal with everything from traffic jams to tragedies.

He got into this unusual line of work after his wife died of a rare liver disease at the age of 34. He saw how humor helped her, and those around her, cope. He also saw how humor helped him get through that loss. He now teaches others how to find some healing in trying times.

If you’re ready to find out how to use humor to deal with changes, challenges, and not-so-funny stressful stuff on the way to renewed purpose. then join us on Thursday May 16th at 10:00am pacific time on the Linked Local Network at:  http://bit.ly/0516Klein or listen to the podcast at http://bit.ly/PurposePodcast

Every Thursday at Noon Central

Join the On-Purpose radio show on the Linked Local Network with Susyn Reeve and Rikk Hansen as they open doors to discover & live a lifework that’s alive with purpose.

Susyn and Rikk share compelling conversations with midlife professionals, entrepreneurs, experts, and authors successfully doing work that expresses their purpose & passion. Learn the secrets and resources from their stories and experience to inspire your on-purpose success. 

Join the conversation on the show’s Facebook page: On Purpose Show

And to listen anytime via iTunes or subscribe to the weekly podcast click => http://bit.ly/PurposePodcast

 

 

My day began yesterday as a typical Sunday. I watched a morning news show and one piece that stuck with me was a discussion about the value of racial profiling when it came to identifying terror suspects. This just didn’t sit right with me. Alas, I carried on with my day.

When I discovered how beautiful the weather was predicted to be I couldn’t imagine staying inside attending to non urgent projects when I could enjoy the day with my family.

We asked the boys what they wanted to do and they elected to go to a park nearby. We loved the idea because it was both outdoors and would allow us to take our dogs Chloe and Joey along.

The playground was filled with children of all ages, sizes and color.

Connor climbed the ladders and descended the slides all the while pretending he was Spiderman.

Aidan fantasized about how he’d one day build a bigger and better playground complete with swimming pools.

Cathy and I found a picnic table beside the playground to sit and watch the kids play.

A boy named Omar

Just then a young hispanic girl approached and asked if she could pet Chloe. I warned her that Chloe was a jumper and loved to give kisses. She promptly picked Chloe up and received a face full of Chloe kisses.

Before we knew it other kids had come over to join her, a girl of African-American decent and a young boy with Asian features.

Why am I pointing out their ethnicity? Because I was recalling the conversation about racial profiling I’d heard earlier in the day. I recalled the insistence that there were people supposedly worthy of judgement and suspicion simply because of their appearance.

But as I watched these children all I could see was three children of different backgrounds, sharing a moment of laughter as they fussed all over Chloe who was enjoying every minute of it.

For a moment I gazed past the small group of children who had gathered around us and saw a small boy, perhaps about three years old who was just entering the playground. He appeared to be alone so I looked around for his parents and a saw a young couple sitting quite far from the playground. Their eyes were attending to the young boy as he explored the playground, he seemed unsure what to do.

His parents appeared middle eastern as his mother was dressed in a soft blue garment that wore like a dress. It had long sleeves as well as a piece that covered her head. Since we were so much closer to their son I decided to keep an eye on him. At this point Cathy was attending to the children who were playing with Chloe and offering them treats to feed to her.

The young boy noticed all of the commotion but wouldn’t approach us. He walked back to his parents and as soon as the gaggle of children around us decided to return to the playground he decided to approach.

As I saw him looking at us with his hands clasped together and a big smile on his face, I asked him if he’d like to pet Chloe. He nodded yes and walked toward her, his smile growing ever wider.

I warned him that she was a jumper but promised him I’d keep a tight hold of her leash so she wouldn’t jump on him.

As he got closer Chloe jumped up and down with increasing excitement. He reached for her and she licked his hand he burst into hysterical laughter.

I waved to his parents in the distance in some attempt to let them know all was well and his father waved back.

Before long I was holding a very excited Chloe so he could pet her and feed her treats without being overwhelmed with jumps and kisses.

So where was Joey this whole time? Joey isn’t the people pooch that Chloe is. He’s ten years old, quite anxious and much more reserved so he stayed close to Cathy. Cathy did invite the young boy to gently pet Joey and fortunately Joey obliged.

By then we decided it was time to get going so I rounded our boys up and Cathy asked the young boy to hold a lower portion of Joey’s leash to help walk him. Cathy used this as a means to walk the boy back to his parents.

Upon seeing this they arose from the picnic table they’d been sitting at and approached them. All the while the boy’s face had the biggest brightest smile as he helped walk Joey.

I watched from a distance as the man introduced his son, his wife and himself to Cathy. I saw everyone smile and exchange a few words before Cathy returned to us.

She learned that the boy’s name was Omar.

As I returned to the car I reflected upon the rich diversity of children we’d met that day and realized that I had engaged in a little racial profiling. Not in a way that aroused suspicion, but in a way that increased connection.

I saw that we had different complexions, but similar smiles. All of the children laughed, played and shared the experience of a small dog.

Lastly we were able to invite a small boy named Omar to share a similar experience while his parents, for their own reasons, chose to keep their distance. I hope in the end that in some small way we showed them that we were all there together. Sharing the same sunshine and laughter, enjoying our families in our community.

Thanks for being you.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Brian R. King LCSW is a Relationship Breakthrough Specialist. His breakthrough strategies draw on his experience as a 24 year cancer survivor, adult with Dyslexia, Dysgraphia, A.D.D., the father of three sons on the autism spectrum as well as someone who lives on the autism spectrum himself. His books and seminars have garnered him worldwide attention for his innovative communication and relationship strategies.

Has the rug been pulled out from under you?  Have you lost a hard-won dream, or had a core part of your life crumble unexpectedly?  How do you find new purpose after a major loss?

Listen to author, Carole Brody Fleet. And discover how loss can be a gateway to finding LifeWork purpose – a journey to find a new answer for the question, “Who am I NOW?

Click Here to listen to the Interview

Carole Brody Fleet is the award-winning author of the critically praised national bestseller, “Widows Wear Stilettos” and the Books for a Better Life Award finalist for her new book, “Happily EVEN After: A Guide to Getting Through (and Beyond!) the Grief of Widowhood“.

Widows Wear Stilettos is proud to welcome the widowed community in its entirety, regardless of age, gender, technical marital status, sexual orientation or the circumstances that surround the loss of a spouse or partner.  It was her personal experience of being widowed in her 40’s that led her to this purpose when she was faced with the questions, “Who am I now?” and “What do I do?”

Hear Carole’s powerful story of discovering new and fulfilling purpose after the illness and death of her husband. Listen in on a compelling conversation of how loss can open up a new door to a next vital lifework chapter.

Gem of Wisdom:  “Make the choice to heal.”

One Small Step:  Carole identified 5 small steps that are essential to healing and finding purpose after loss.

1. Make the choice
2. Reach out for help
3. Make time for grief
4. Reactive vs Proactive coping – what are you reacting to and what can you take control over?
5. Take conscious ownership of your healing journey

Favorite Quotes from this Interview:

“Creating a routine give you a sense of control when there is so much that you can’t control.”

“When you’re widowed at a chronologically younger age you have different issues than someone who is widowed at an older age.  It’s not harder, the issues are different.”

“I had the opportunity to model for my 11 year old daughter that we could get knocked down hard and that we could get back up.”

“Death makes everybody uncomfortable, talking about it, dealing with it, acknowledging it.  And the fact is that if we don’t talk about it, death is not going to go away.”

Resources:

Website:  www.WidowsWearStilettos.com

Carole’s  Books:

• Widows Wear Stilettos

• Happily EVEN After: A Guide to Getting Through (and Beyond!) the Grief of Widowhood

I’d be surprised if you weren’t aware of the recent tragedy in Boston, the flooding in the midwest as well as other crisis around the world.

With the privilege of a 24 hour drama loving media it is easier than ever to accentuate the negative.

I live in a rural area of Illinois and watched the footage of the unfolding flooding and felt feelings of concern for others coupled with gratitude that we weren’t enduring the same experience.

That changed when I decided to check our basement and discovered water pouring in. We were very fortunate in that it stopped before more than a few possessions were damaged.

Myself, Cathy and our oldest son Zach worked to clean up as much of the water as we could before we realized we weren’t getting anywhere and called it a night.

As we sat together before bed Zach reflected upon recent days and said, “What a terrible week?”

“What do you mean?” Cathy asked him.

Zach recounted all the negative events of the week and described it as evidence of the world we live in.

Then I asked him the following, very important question, “What else do you see?”

In each of the tragedies that occurred this week we were also witness to one of the greatest miracles of humanity. That whenever tragedy occurs the result is an exponentially greater number of people doing good than doing harm.

We have seen strangers become brothers and sisters, and an outpouring of help simply because help is needed.

Later Cathy was looking out the window after two days of rain and pointed out the beautiful night sky. I stood beside her and watched as the moon and stars emerged from behind the clouds.

I thought to myself, so often we need the dark to appreciate the light. Just as we are often at our best when things are worst.

No matter how dark the times can seem, it is also an opportunity to see the stars, our humanity come out.

We are the night sky, we are brothers and sisters and we are all in this together.

Thanks for being you.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Brian R. King LCSW is a Relationship Breakthrough Specialist. His breakthrough strategies draw on his experience as a 24 year cancer survivor, adult with Dyslexia, Dysgraphia, A.D.D., the father of three sons on the autism spectrum as well as someone who lives on the autism spectrum himself. His books and seminars have garnered him worldwide attention for his innovative communication and relationship strategies.

Arlington Heights and Education Hubs Launch

HandsOn Suburban Chicago (HOSC) and Linked Local Network (LLN), as part of the Community Hub Network, have collaborated to launch two new websites focusing on Arlington Heights and Education.  The sites will be previewed on May 1^st at 8:30 am at the Forest View Education Center Theater in Arlington Heights.  In attendance will be Thomas Hayes Arlington Heights Mayor, Carl LaMells of Clearbrook, and Mike Fiel Director of Community Education at Township HS District 214.

These two new Internet websites are designed to share news, information and events that professionals can use to grow their organization, engage in community dialogue and create long-term, mutually beneficial relationships between business, nonprofit, public service agencies and education sectors.

There will be a short presentation on how organizations can get involved and an opportunity to ask questions. There will also be a virtual ribbon cutting. This event is free to attend.

For more information and to register visit:  http://ArlingtonEducationCHN.eventbrite.com.  Ceremony can also be viewed  online at the Linked Local Network Google+ Community by  joining the Hangout.

“What Do You Say When You Talk to Yourself ?” 

All day long we talk to ourselves. Are you even aware of that and what you say to yourself? Most of us aren’t. Yet at least several hundreds times a day we say things, comment, compliment, criticize and sometimes put ourselves down. The conversations we have in our head are important. They help define who we are and what we are? They are an important part of creating the self-image we have about ourselves. Unfortunately, if you are not aware of your self talk then most of it is probably negative. You know what I am talking about, you are doing something and you make a mistake and the little voice in your mind says to you, “How could you be so stupid?”. This self talk and commentary we have is happening all day long and until you become aware of it, you can’t change it. We become what we say to ourselves all the time. So if we are saying negative things to ourselves, our lives most likely reflect that. Where did it come from? Many times it comes from our childhood, growing up. We hear things like; Your… Stupid…Dumb…To Fat…Ugly…Not Good Enough…Worthless…Unlovable…and there are many more. Our subconscious minds are very powerful and if you tell it something enough times, it will believe that it is true…even when it isn’t. When we hear those negative words enough times, we start acting that way and the world starts treating us that way. Fortunately, if we say great things about ourselves over and over, we believe that we are great and the world treats us that way. Positive or negative either one is and can become your reality.

How do we change our self talk? The first step is to become aware of it. You cannot change anything that you are not aware of. Being aware of who you are, what you are and what you think are the most powerful tools of change. Without them you are forever destined to live the current life you are living. Today’s Success Homework will allow you to become; awake and aware of your internal dialogue and then be able to change it. What should you be saying to yourself? Look at the picture in this article, “Strength” read the words surrounding it, those are great examples of what you should be saying to yourself, all day long, everyday. You are Amazing…accept that about yourself.

Your Success Homework

Every time you catch yourself saying something negative to yourself, freeze, stop what you are doing and repeat these words: CANCEL, CANCEL, CANCEL…and then replace your negative statement with a positive one. Here is an example: You make a mistake doing something and you say to yourself “Am I stupid”….Freeze…say: CANCEL, CANCEL, CANCEL…”I am learning new things everyday and getting wiser”. Does that sound simple, it is. At first you will not catch yourself that much because you are not that aware of your thoughts. Soon you will be aware and you will be “cancelling” yourself all day long. Eventually you negative self talk will subside and you will think more positively and you will be “cancelling” yourself  less and less.

Scott Schmaren’s Bio

Scott Schmaren is a nationally known speaker, hypnotist and author. He has spent over 20 years learning powerful success technologies. He has used what he has learned and created to transform his life, losing 180. He has appeared on the Oprah Winfrey Show.  Oprah said, “If Scott can do it, I can do it and so can you! Scott’s techniques are being used for business, weight management, overcoming obstacles, achieving goals and many other things. Scott is co-author of the book, Stepping Stones to Success, along with Jack Canfield , Deepak Chopra and Dr. Denis Waitley. Scott’s forthcoming book is titled, “Your Ultimate Visionary Mind: Transforming Your Life in 30 Minutes a Day”.