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The Art of Asking for Help

If asking for help was as easy as raising your hand it wouldn’t be so baffling for many with ADHD or Autism Spectrum Conditions. Those who can do it in the blink of an eye don’t realize that asking for the help you need is actually a 5 Step Process. A process that those who […]

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It Isn’t Change You’re Afraid of, It’s Really . .

There’s a misnomer about people in general, people with ADHD and spectrumites specifically. The misnomer is the belief that we fear change. That isn’t correct, what we fear is uncertainty. The uncertainty about the problems we’ll encounter. Uncertainty about whether we’ll encounter problems we know how to solve or problems that will leave us feeling helpless […]

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How To Be OK When Things Don’t Go Your Way

Change is hard enough on its own, but when it comes in the form of people who don’t follow through on promises they make to you it’s especially frustrating. In this episode, Brian will share strategies to help make those situations more predictable as well as a way to determine if someone is going to actually keep […]

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The 5 Pillars of Success

One of the biggest challenges those on the Autism Spectrum or ADHD face, is how to resolve the disconnect they feel with the fast paced world we live in. In this episode, Brian will introduce you to 5 key abilities, including Self-Awareness and Self-Advocacy that are key to creating a relationship with the world that makes life an experience of your […]

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Executive Functions 101

From Working Memory to Time Management and beyond. In this extended episode Brian walks you step by step through the special skills referred to as Executive Functions – skills that enable us to take what we know and execute a plan to create the life we want. He’ll explain how deficits in these skills complicate the lives […]

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Why You Don’t Have To Be Normal To Be Happy

There’s a common misperception in the special needs community that being “normal” is a key to getting the results you want. The key is actually something much more substantial. Listen as Brian describes how he helped one young man discover this key to success in life. (Click Here to listen to this episode and to read […]

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The importance of quitting

Our success in life is determined in large part by the things we start doing, the things we keep doing and for the purposes of our discussion today, the things we quit doing. Join Brian in a discussion of the important things to QUIT doing in order to move forward in life in amazing ways. […]

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Succeed with ADHD Anyway!

Welcome to succeeding with ADHD anyway I‘m your host and fellow scatterbrain Brian King. In this, our pilot episode, I want to give you a sense of how I got here and what you and I are going to accomplish together in future episodes, sound good? In order to take full ownership of my life and […]

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Noisy room noisy mind

A common complaint I hear from teachers about their students with either ADHD or autism is that they seem to make no effort or delay making an effort to get ready for class. They’ll state that the student (who we’ll call Andy) will simply sit there and do nothing while the other students are getting […]

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Is your memory slippery instead of sticky?

I refer to my working memory as Teflon in that nothing sticks to it. When it does, however, it’s often just long enough to write it down so I stand a chance of remembering. FYI, an example of a working memory problem is forgetting a set of directions seconds after being given them – unless they’re written down for […]

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Teaching responsibility to your child on the autism spectrum

As an adult with Asperger’s and ADHD I have discovered two criteria that allow me to determine when my nervous system is organized and thus more capable of making things happen. Those criteria are the experience of calm and focus. When I’m becoming anxious, I start stimming more and my thinking becomes erratic and fuzzy. Then I […]

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How to find your strengths when you aren’t sure what they are

Many of us with ADHD or autism are so used to being criticized and so used to having difficulty that it’s much easier to think that we have more weaknesses than we will ever have strengths. It doesn’t help that those who are looking to support us also have a tendency to emphasize our challenges. […]

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Is he being an Aspie or being an ASS?

A question that comes up repeatedly from parents and spouses of spectrumites is “Is it the Asperger’s or is he just being difficult?” Some say (and I can relate) “Sometimes he can be a real ass.” There have been plenty of times when I’ve been an ASS and needed to be called on it and take responsibility […]

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Old school teaching versus the real world

Giving a child a copy of notes for each class does NOT remove accountability from the student nor does it give the student permission to tune out. What it DOES do is prevent a child’s brain from becoming worn out as a result of having to rapidly and repeatedly transition between whiteboard and notebook, often […]

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Random acts of purpose

Much of what is portrayed for us either through reality programming or fictional depictions of life celebrates being the best, being the winner as the most meaningful outcome. I’m not suggesting we shouldn’t strive to excel because continuing to refine ourselves improves our lives and the lives of those around us. Unfortunately, it leaves many, especially […]

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When Will I Be Good Enough?

“All I can tell you really is if you get to the point where someone is telling you that you are not great or not good enough, just follow your heart and don’t let anybody crush your dream.” – Patti LaBelle While listening to others talk about their day do you frequently hear value judgements […]

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Just you and me

“You know, it’s been proven that 35 to 40 hours a year with one-on-one attention, a student can get one grade level higher.” - Dave Eggers One of my passions in life is discovering the key aspects of relationships that are absolutely necessary for making them work. One of the myths I discovered and hope to shatter is […]

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Educate, Delegate or Evacuate

I said to a friend of mine the other day, “I get the feeling my life is never, ever going to be like everyone else’s. I am always going to be really different.” Some days that is really hard and some days, it’s a blessing. I rejoice in the blessings and work my way through […]

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To lecture or to learn

“Wisdom is the reward you get for a lifetime of listening when you’d have preferred to talk.” - Doug Larson Beginning the day with a call from the school nurse isn’t on any parent’s to do list. However, the call I received this morning rapidly changed from an inconvenience to an opportunity to connect with my […]

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What Mandela taught me about opportunity

“As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn’t leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I’d still be in prison.” – Nelson Mandela I first learned of Nelson Mandela while in high school. I was captivated by his quiet and humble courage. To me he embodied […]

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A reminder you won’t forget

“Every composer knows the anguish and despair occasioned by forgetting ideas which one had no time to write down.” - Hector Berlioz If you have a learning challenge that affects the way your brain processes information here is a truth that you MUST accept if you are ever to lead a full life. Ready? Your brain […]

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Inviting your child with special needs to be more confident

“When you complement your children, praise them for inner qualities such as kindness, honesty and perseverance so they will strive to contribute to the world in meaningful ways.” – Toni Schutta   When my boys were younger they came to believe that their primary purpose in this world was to be a source of frustration […]

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One reason people on the autism spectrum fear success

“The purpose of human life is to serve, and to show compassion and the will to help others.” – Albert Schweitzer Often the experience of success for those on the autism spectrum or with adhd can be a bittersweet experience. Whereas others celebrate their victories and accept the well deserved praise that comes along with it – […]

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How old do you have to be to be brave?

“Bravery is believing in yourself, and that thing nobody can teach you.” - El Cordobes How often is it that your child teaches you how to embrace the unknown with grace and strength? Recently I shared with you (see article) that I chose to remove my 11 yr old Aidan from school because of unexplained behavior that […]

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What’s the real story?

“People get up, they go to work, they have their lives, but you’ll never see the headlines say, ‘Six billion people got along rather well today.’ You’ll have the headline about the 30 people who shot each other.” – John Malkovich   Are you ever unsure of what to tell people about yourself because you’re […]

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How to become rejection proof

“I think that you have to believe in your destiny; that you will succeed, you will meet a lot of rejection and it is not always a straight path, there will be detours – so enjoy the view.” – Michael York What if I suggested that you haven’t been rejected nearly as much as you think […]

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7 tips for awesome communication

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” – Tony Robbins   What is communication? You’d be surprised how often this definition varies from person to person. It has been said that communication […]

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I’m glad that you still love me too

“For every good reason there is to lie, there is a better reason to tell the truth.” - Bo Bennett As a parent receiving phone calls from your child’s school cause feelings of immediate concern. Yesterday I received a call from the school nurse and later the school counselor about my 11 year old Aidan. Aidan […]

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